My Sex Positive Story: Carol Battle

In the first of our series of interviews sharing influencers’ sex positive journeys we hear from The Good Bits co-founder and sex positive advocate Carol Battle.

Carol Battle is a good sex story founder

Carol Battle is a tech exec with a creative brain for business and penchant for multidimensional start-ups. She is also a mother, a daughter, a success manager and a lover. Here she talks about her sex positive journey.

When did you first start being forthright about sex?

I’ve always been relatively forthright in private company (for a middle-class white woman raised as a strict Catholic).

At some point in my early thirties I stopped being very comfortable making jokes and innuendos and controversial statements.

Let’s say it was a phase!

When my co-founder Siobhan Fitzgerald pitched me the idea of sexy stories to improve my libido on a kiddy playdate, that phase ended.

What does it mean to you to be sex positive?

I’ve only learnt the concept of sex positivity in the last couple of years, and I love it. It’s a single statement that conveys so much about what’s that is wrong about sex.

I love that it aligns to the Romance communities attitude about “not to yucking anyone’s yum”. For most people, at least for me, the journey about removing shame from sex has taken some time; my sex ed came from a co-ed boarding school and Sex and The City!

As a life principle, it’s great to remove the judgement about the type of sex people wanted to engage in or their choices to be public or private about it. Shame has no place in natural sexual expression.

What proportion of your waking energy do you spend pushing toward a sex positive future? What does that look like for you?

The Good Bits is all about pushing toward a sex positive future. I have the privilege of supporting and growing an exciting market of entrepreneurial writers, therapists and product designers. If you’ve ever thought about giving a toy, a course or a story a go, DO IT! Your money flowing in will create more amazing outcomes for these entrepreneurial women!

Once you become sex positive, it can’t help but impact on all relationships. I had an interesting conversation with an elderly aunt on Wear It Purple Day. She commented that she didn’t like some of the supermarket cashiers had rainbow on their name badges. She thought that it was okay if they were gay, but that they should keep it to themselves. Let’s just say we had a talk. I don’t know if I was convincing, but I believe I was. There’s a long history of confusion and misinformation to be addressed.

What does the ideal future sex positive uptopian future look like to you?

I’m an idealist. Sex positivity liberates women and men from judgement and shame. Universal choice and acceptance of pleasure is life changing. The idea that sex is normal, removes so much objectification, stress and pain and opens up choices that many women never had available.